From day one, there will be sibling rivalry. I remember the day we brought Abel home, Cooper asked if we could return him! Then he became so jealous! When I was breastfeeding, or changing a diaper, Cooper wanted my full attention! But there are ways to clear up the tension! Using Gods word to show your children that they all hold a place in your heart.
What is the one verse that has changed my parenting method towards sibling rivalry? Gelatians 5:26. Here is says “Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.”. Now that can be a little hard for a four year old to understand, so lets break it down for the little ones.
Let us not be desirous of vain glory
With siblings, there is always competition. Who can draw the best picture, who can clean their room the fastest, and the list goes on. But it is important to let them know that they cant win the best kiddo award by who can do what better. That they both hold an important part in your heart.
Provoking one another
I cant even count how many times Cooper just HAS to have to toy Abel is playing with. Then Abel gets mad and throws a fit. As a parent we have to make it clear to our children that they cant just pester each other to get their way. As cliche as it sounds, sharing is caring.
Envying one another.
Have you ever gone to Mcdonalds and ordered your kids a happy meal? Next time notice that they give both kids the same toy. Thats not just by chance, thats because they learned that kids always want what other kids have! As parents we have to work very diligently to help our children understand that each of them are unique.
This is the verse that has helped me with parenting, it could be a different verse for you. But the point is, everything can be solved by the big parenting handbook, also known as the bible.